Parshat Vayechi – Peace: The Ultimate Blessing

This week’s Torah portion tells us of the last days of Jacob, the third of our forefathers. When it was clear that Jacob did not have much longer to live, Jacob’s son Joseph brought his own adult sons, Ephraim and Manasseh, to visit their grandfather for the last time. Jacob took this visit as an opportunity to bless his grandchildren. Though the custom when giving a blessing to two people at once was to place the right hand on the head of the older person and the left hand on the head of the younger person, Jacob did the opposite. He placed his right hand on the head of Ephraim, the younger of the two brothers, and he placed his left hand on the head of Manasseh, the older brother. Joseph, thinking his father had made a mistake, tried correcting him, but Jacob told him that it was no mistake. He had seen prophetically that though great people would descend from both of these grandsons, the descendants of Ephraim would be greater. He therefore accorded Ephraim the honor generally given to the older sibling.

The Torah then records the blessing that Jacob proceeded to give Ephraim and Manasseh: “By you shall Israel bless, saying, ‘May God make you like Ephraim and Manasseh.’” The blessing that Jacob was giving to his grandsons was that all future generation would bless their children that they grow up to be like Ephraim and Manasseh. Jacob’s blessing has been and continues to be fulfilled. To this day, when Jewish parents give their sons a blessing, either weekly on Friday night or annually before Yom Kippur, the text of the traditional blessing is, “May God make you like Ephraim and Manasseh.”

Why is this so? We bless our daughters that they should follow in the footsteps of our glorious Matriarchs (“May God make you like Sarah, Rebecca, Rachel, and Leah”), so why did Jacob not want us to bless our sons that they follow in the path of our Patriarchs? What is unique about Ephraim and Manasseh that Jacob was essentially hoping and praying that all of his male descendants should follow in the path of these two grandchildren of his?

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Parshat Tazriah – Partnering with the Creator

In the beginning of this week’s Parshah, the Torah states that after a woman gives birth she becomes tamei, ritually impure. If she gave birth to a son, she waits for seven days, at which point she immerses in a mikvah, a ritual pool. Thirty-three days later – a total of forty days after the birth – she brings an offering in the Temple and fully regains her spiritually-pure status. If a woman gives birth to a baby girl, however, the first period lasts for fourteen days and the second period lasts for sixty-six – a total of eighty days after the birth. One might think that there is something ‘wrong’ with an infant girl that causes her mother to become ritually impure for forty days longer than a baby boy would!

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The Communal Phoenix Siyum on Meseches Shabbos: A Celebration of Unity

Shabbos is a time of achdus, unity, in a number of different relationships.  The first and foremost of these is our relationship with Hashem.  Halachah dictates that on Shabbos one is not supposed to pray for personal requests.  Rabbi Shimshon Pincus (1944 – 2001, Ofakim, Israel) explains this law with an analogy to a fundraiser.  At times, the fundraiser will ask a potential donor for money, but on other occasions, he will simply spend time building his relationship with the potential donor.  This relationship building will ensure that the next time the fundraiser will ask for a donation, the check will be much larger.  Any good fundraiser will readily admit that the key to successful fundraising really lies in this relationship building.  On Shabbos, Rabbi Pincus explains, our goal is simply to build our Continue reading

G-d, Zaidy, and Sentimentality

As I am writing this, I am on a red-eye flight on my way to Baltimore.  The reason for this trip is to visit my dear grandfather or rather Zaidy, as we call him, Rabbi Hirsch Diskind.  He lives in Israel, but has not been well recently.  He has terrible pains regularly throughout most of his body.  The doctors in Israel discovered what appeared to be a broken vertebrae but weren’t sure.  His children for a number of reasons decided to bring him to The United States for medical treatment.  The doctors here took some more tests that were also inconclusive.  They have been hoping, however, that it may simply be an infection in the spine.  Regardless of what it is, it seems that this is the source of the pain.  This past Monday they took a biopsy and we should hopefully have a diagnosis soon.

I enjoy taking red-eye flights when traveling alone since I generally have no problem sleeping on the plane.  By taking the red-eye I waste no time during the day flying.  This time, however, I have been finding it difficult to fall asleep.  Thoughts of my grandfather and Continue reading

Parshat Va’eira – Appreciating Appreciation

I always treasure every moment I am able to spend with my revered grandfather, Rabbi Hirsch Diskind.  No matter what the situation is, he always has a unique outlook and a life lesson to teach.

I once went shopping with him, and when we were leaving the store, someone opened the door to come in.  Since the door closed slowly, there would be enough time for us to walk through the open doorway before the door closed.  As we passed by the fellow that had actually pushed the door open, my grandfather thanked him for opening it for us.  Noticing that I myself hadn’t thanked that person, my grandfather took the opportunity to discuss with me the importance of hakarat hatov – appreciating the good that is performed for you.  In order to get me thinking, he challenged me to pinpoint the Torah source for thanking Continue reading

Chanukah: A Rededication to Our Ideals

At the end of the Chanukah story, the Jews rededicated the Beit HaMikdash, the Holy Temple. What does this mean? For us, living in the 21st century, the initial reaction would be to analogize a rededication of the Beit HaMikdash to a rededication of our current places of worship. Does this mean then that the Jews at the end of the Chanukah story held a fundraising campaign to “beautify the grounds” of the Beit HaMikdash? Were they simply bringing the physical structure of the Beit HaMikdash up to date with the latest building safety codes?
The Jews were obviously not simply rededicating the physical plant. They were, rather, rededicating the spiritual plant. They refocused on the meaning of the Beit HaMikdash, Continue reading

Milk and Meat: A lesson in using our ability to reason appropriately

There are many laws detailing what is kosher and what is not. In general, Jews are barred from eating non-kosher items, but benefitting from them in any other way is totally permissible. For example, there’s no problem with buying bacon bits and serving them to one’s pet. The main exception to this is mixing meat and dairy. Not only does Jewish law forbid the consumption of a meat and dairy mixture, but it is forbidden to receive benefit in any way from such a mixture. As a matter of fact, even the mixing of the two is forbidden. Why is this so? What is so problematic with this mixture that we are forbidden to even join the two together?
Before we attempt to find an answer, we must understand that the sole reason we keep kosher and all the laws of the Torah is because G-d commanded us to do so. This is the only binding factor. Whether or not we understand the reason is irrelevant. To put it in the terms of the well-known adage, if G-d says “Jump,” our response must be “How high?” Not why, or for what purpose. Even if it seems totally ludicrous to us, we must follow the Continue reading